Since my trip to Wisconsin a few weeks ago, I’ve had the house to myself. Three weeks, no wife, no dog, and no crayon eater. For me, being the introvert that I am, I relaxed and had moments of reflection. Actually, I had a personal come to Jesus meeting with myself. Meaning, I analyzed things in my life and came to some realizations. Or rather, I reminded myself of who I am.
What I came up with is this.
- Simpler things make me happiest
- I don’t give a shit about shiny things
- My wife is the best part of me
- I am who I am, and there’s no shame in it
That’s a lot of I’s huh? I did say this was self reflection didn’t I?
Fancy cars, new houses, new toys, new this, new that…..keeping up with the Jones or whatever it is, I am content with the things in my life. Growing up, pre-internet and pre-cellphone, we made do with the things we had. Marketing wasn’t quite as in your face as it these days. It seems these lessons have been lost in the last 20 years.
Personally, I’ll admit I’ve fallen into this trap. I guess that goes with being in your 20’s and 30’s. You’re focused on your hustle. Focused on getting nicer things because that 1982 Corolla with the garage sale couch feels embarrassing at 40. Does it need to though? Seriously….it’s paid for and new/nice things eventually become old garage sale stuff. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t improve your life, it just means make sure what you add gives value not just bling.
Which brings me to the shiny bauble shit. Do we really need all this shit we see on tv, or the internet? What value does the latest and greatest technology and toys bring? How often are we just content with the things we have in our life? We’ve become immune to the advancements people have made. How’s that? I was sitting on a plane somewhere over the Midwest at 30K+ feet in the air typing on my laptop connected to the internet.
Stop and just think about that. I was miles in the air….surfing the internet and typing a blog post. No shit…that’s crazy. If you aren’t amazed at that, then you take too much shit for granted.
I am at my happiest when I’m with Aj. No that doesn’t mean that our marriage is sunshine and champagne. It means we are human and we have to work at our marriage. We fight, we argue, and we disagree and I wouldn’t want it any other way. I’ve never met another woman who inspires me to be a better person like she does.
I know I’m lucky to have her as my wife. She tolerates my crazy well….and puts up well with my obsessions and passions.
I am who I am
I’ve come to realize, that I am who I am. I’m a guy who grew up in the mountains and from a small town. While when I was a kid, all I wanted was out of that small town….now as an adult I just want to go back to small town living. I miss the slower pace of life, the value of work, and neighbors you can depend on.
Living in the city seems to be about the latest fads, trends, and bling. Constantly seems like it’s about keeping up with the Jones’s. In short, it’s just simpler. I’m just some guy who owns trucks, motorcycles, guns, hunts, fishes, hikes, and camps because that’s what I enjoy. I prefer to hangout besides a campfire than a bar.